Dating no call
I avoided picking up the phone for any local number I didn’t recognize.–Dex: This guy was my secret admirer. One day I received a note saying I had captured his attention during a conversation we’d recently had. He finally called me at the store a few months later, if I can remember correctly. Finally, one day, he said that if I wanted to see the new movie we’d been discussing (, it turns out), he’d love to tag along.
His approach creeped me out and I hated that I felt pressured to give him my digits. I probably would’ve gone out with Dex, but the guy took too long!
The pleaser in me felt as if I ‘should’ reciprocate interest but I didn’t want to.
In this illusionary world where we tippy-tap away with strangers, possibly for quite some time before we meet face-to-face, we do also have to pose the question: Is it ghosting if we haven’t met the person? This way, we don’t over-promise, under-deliver and then excuse ourselves from ending things decently on the basis that the person is a stranger and that we’re not dating. Sure, we can avoid dating altogether but what would be the point?Here’s the deal, guys: You can read all the dating and relationship advice you can find – and there’s a lot of good stuff out there – but there’s just one key piece of advice I have to share. So here is a quick history of how I met and was asked out by some of the fellas in my past and whether it worked or whether it failed. We dated for eight months and split up on good terms. He was just too late.–Ivan: Another guy I met in the store I worked at, Ivan is the guy I married. And no, I don’t know what it’s like to be a guy looking for women to date. And what I learned:–John: When I met John, he was working in a shoe store and was just about the funniest man I’d ever known. We just had different goals.–Adam: I was in a bar when I met Adam. He came in the first weekend we’d opened a brand new location, and my friend Misti told me “that guy’s vibing you! Of course, if she offers her number without you asking… Asking for hers puts her in the position of having to say “yes” or “no” and she might not want to hurt your feelings.I recently delved into the topic of ‘ghosting’, which is when someone who you’ve had an intimate relationship with disappears.